July 20, 2005 Online Dating Is Wrong?

I have said that online dating is counter-intuitive to what we have been taught, as the rules of socializing. The original rules of engagement are these:

• 1) See what you like
• 2) Approach
• 3) Find out more about the person
• 4) If finding is agreeable, advance.

The online order is reversed:

• 1) Find out about the person
• 2) If finding is agreeable, continue
• 3) Approach in person
• 4) If you see what you like, advance.

I can't say which one is necessarily more valid than the other, but I do know that we are in the midst of a change, as the rules and order are being shuffled about. It's a new game, and it stands to be seen whether the new order can prove itself or not.

What I do know is that the new way immediately makes the old way nostalgic, giving it brass. I do have a craving for guys who approach me in person, on the street, or grab me at the dance club to start a conversation or just pass a pearl into my ear.

Online dating is a different game. Everyone is judged on their word choice and diction. It's no longer real-time wit and animal magnetism that rules the jungle. It's the correct combination of words that would ultimately unlock the safe.

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August 19: :  How We Became So Noisy

August 10, 2005 :   The Art of Movie Warfare

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